Sunday Reflections (Sept. 30th, 2012): My Next Book, Men’s Conference, etc.

My Next Book

Back in February of this year, the Lord blessed me to publish my first book, “Beyond the Dream: Transitioning from a Dream to its Fulfillment in Your Life,” through Winepress Publishing. I thought that I would be able to take a break from writing, but God placed it on my heart to begin a second one. So back to the computer screen I go. It is a joy to write, but it is also a lot of work. I am praying once again for the discipline and perserverance to get it done.

Men’s Conference (The Embassy Church)

Yesterday I was honored to share with the men of The Embassy Church at their men’s conference. I was assigned the topic: “Keeping Your [Sexual] Desires Under Control.” Here’s the outline of what I covered:

1. Understand God’s created order

God made humanity and, as far as sexuality (or sexual identity) is concerned, established two sexes: male and female (Genesis 1:27, 2:18-23).

With each gender comes a corresponding sexual desire for the opposite sex. God made men for women and women for men. And this sexual desire is to be embraced and acted upon in heterosexual marriage only (Genesis 2:25)

Any blurring of this clear distinction between the sexes is unnatural, to say the least.

2. Embrace what God considers sexual sin

Anything that is accepted and acted upon outside of God’s created order is sinful. For a few moments, I want us to examine what God considers to be sexual sins.

  • Sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:9; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Hebrews 13:4)
  • Adultery (1 Corinthians 6:9; Hebrews 13:4)
  • Homosexuality (Romans 1:24-28, 32; 1 Corinthians 6:9)
  • Orgies (Galatians 5:21)
  • Lust (Matthew 5:27-28)

According to 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 (cf. 1 Cor. 6:12-20), God desires that we abstain from sexual immorality. Not only are we to abstain from illicit sexual acts, but also from illicit sexual fantasizing. We see this in Jesus’ statement in Matthew 5:27-28. Although this passage deals specifically with adultery, I do believe there is a broader concept in play, namely sexual impurity of the heart.

So when we consider Jesus’ words – those he spoke while on earth and those he spoke through his Apostles as they were led by the Holy Spirit – concerning lust, there is a whole range of things that now come into view that we are to abstain from:

• Pornography
• Strip/Gentlemen’s Clubs
• Phone Sex/Sexting
• Sexual dancing

3. Know your position in Jesus

Romans 6 tells us that because we believe in Jesus, our old self has been crucified or put to death (vs. 3-6). In Christ, we have been freed from the controlling power of sin (vs. 7, 17-18). Because Jesus died to sin, we are dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus (vs. 9-11).

4. Acknowledge your sinful sexual proclivities

Part of keeping your desires under control is being humbly honest with the one or ones that are or have been out of control. What I mean by that is you need to be brutally honest about what sexual temptations you have a weakness for.

5. Follow the Holy Spirit

Galatians 5:16 and 25 tells us that we need to continuously keep in step with Holy Spirit. To keep in step with the Spirit fundamentally means to obey God’s Word, which tells us to live holy and pure lives sexually. It means, according to Colossians 3, that we need to put to death or rid ourselves of sinful behavior and begin to live or practice those things that are line with being God’s holy people, like being compassionate, kind, humble, gentle, patient, etc. (vs. 5-14).

6. Avoid sexually stimulating situations

According to Romans 13:14, we don’t need to make provisions for the flesh, to gratify its desires

7. Realize there are some real and harmful consequences to sexual sin

We can learn about these consequences from other people’s examples (1 Cor. 10:6-13). Some of you are too arrogant, thinking that it (adultery, sex before marriage, porn, etc.) happened to other men because they were weak or foolish, but it won’t happen to you.

Paul says take heed lest you and I fall.

8. Pray preemptively

We are in a battle, gentlemen! We are fighting against the flesh (1 Pet. 2:11), Satan (Eph. 6:10-12), and a world “league” – of which we used to be a part – that is under his control/management (Eph. 2:2-3) that participates in and promotes all types of sexual immorality. Therefore, we need to begin to go on the offensive in our prayers. We need to pray for our focus to be on Jesus and His Truth and against the temptations of our flesh, Satan, and the sinful world system that we live around.

Sunday Worship Service

Our Impact Student Ministry Choir led us in worship at our Worship 2 Experience and Pastor Wesley preached on “I Can’t Stop Praising His Name” from Psalm 145:8-15.


The month of October is going to be eventful for me. In addition to my regular job responsibilities and ongoing ministry meetings, activities, and initiatives, I have a few preaching/speaking engagements lined up. But the most importantly I will be celebrating my beautiful wife’s 33rd birthday this week!

It’s all for Christ. Have a wonderful week!

Posted on September 30, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. It is in the endorsement of sexual sin that I find most fault with churches and politicians. I believe homosexuality to be the same as other forms of sexual sin, but it seems that churches and politicians decry heterosexual immorality while excusing homosexuality. At a time when the church is being called to be a light, how many churches have quietly endorsed the President’s gay agenda?

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